I dont' think I mentioned yet that my husband is losing his job soon. We're not especially sure when. It seems the middle of next month.
See, the guys who bought the company he's worked for don't really know how to run a company. So they ran a company that wasn't doing all that well but had promise into the ground in short fashion. When you have people owning a company and don't know how to run it, but won't ask the people who might be able to help them run it any questions, then you have disaster on your hands.
Have you ever worked for people like this? I have. And my husband now has too.
So anyway, my husband is a unique and wonderful human being with unique and wonderful ways of coping with this sort of stress. He also has unique and not so wonderful ways of coping that frankly wear me out.
Lucky for us this is not 3.5 years ago when we first got married - I had no patience then for his flailing. Now, I can at least listen and keep my mouth shut. But dang, that wears me out! It's a lot of work keeping my trap shut mostly and responding ever so carefully if I do respond. He verbalizes a great deal of his processing, which what woman wouldn't love, right? But alas, I don't always have patience for hearing him one day telling me how the world is ending and we'll be on the street in a month and the next day telling me about his epiphany of how God is going to take care of us. Then the next day of woe and doom and gloom and then yet another epiphany of how God is going to take care of us.... etc. Roller Coaster.
I also must say that he's doing better than he has in the past with big stuff. He's a very mature wonderful man. And he's also getting on my nerves today. So I, rather than run my mouth at him, chose to tell him to please take the day - or at least part of it to work on job search stuff. So that later he can engage with our family like a real person and take a break from it. A break for all of us. "Promise me you'll then take the evening off and not talk about it whatsoever."
So far so good.
This is going to be a long ride, and I never like the roller coaster of his dealing with this sort of thing. But it's going to teach us a lot. And in the end, it will be OK.
It really really will.
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I'm sorry to hear that Phiz. And you are right, it will teach you a lot and it will be OK. But in the middle, it might get a little rough. I can identify with his roller coaster habit. I am bad about that one myself. And I know it is exhausting to watch and to try and stay quiet.
My prayers are with y'all. I hope that he can find something satisfactory before too long and than y'all can maybe have a special holiday with extra time with him around without stressing too much.
Here's wishing you all sorts of good luck. He sounds a lot like my husband, and yeah, it can freakin' wear you thin. ha ha!
He should totally look for jobs in Texas. Yeah! :)
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